The sky is gray and it smells like Autumn outside. I’m gonna buy out Costco’s pumpkin pies. I’m going to eat them until I weigh 500 pounds and die with the faint aroma of pumpkin spice hanging in the air.
It is unfair to ask a woman to leave aside her personal experience and discuss feminist issues in the abstract. You are discussing the stuff of her life. Asking her to “not make it personal” is to ask her to wrench her womanhood from her personhood. Don’t play Devil’s advocate. Seriously. Just don’t.
It’s okay to change your identity. It’s okay to discover new and different versions of yourself and it is okay to move forward and completely change your identities as they come and go and are. To be human is to be fluid, to change. You are not invalid for doing so.